For part one of Worth More, go here.
Since the days of Adam and Eve, when our sin nature began, we have had a hole in our heart to be valued. Even after eating the fruit, Adam and Eve said “we are naked” to the Lord. “Who told you that?” He asked. They felt shame and wanted reassurance of their value in His eyes. We are no different today. We desire in our heart of hearts to be valued.
As the last days of the year 2011 came and went, my heart began to understand that I felt I deserved a place in the relationship and I deserved to be valued. The truth is, I only need to know I am valued by God. He is my value. The hole in my heart to be valued needed to be filled by Him, not by a relationship that I perceived I needed to be valued in.
He does not change like the shifting sand. While I grieve that I may never have value in another’s eyes, my heart felt freedom knowing that as long as I was depending on the Lord for His REAL value, what worth I had (or am) to someone else is minimal. Oddly enough, smart looks, small barbs, and silence did not pierce my heart as it once did, simply because I was not looking for my value from that relationship anymore. I was looking to God. I no longer wanted to click my heels and go away. I was content to stay, at peace with the relationship, knowing my place and value was in Him.
A new chapter has opened.
Do you feel it? God values YOU. More than the birds of the air, the fish of the sea-more than anything.
Why it important that you know He values you? Because it means you look at your children, parenting, friends, and family through a lens of freedom, instead of restriction. If I instill in my children the Biblical principal that God values them more than anything and that is where their value lies, I have taught them more about the heart of God than most people who have been to church all their life understand.
Whether you feel valued or not possibly might be a generational cycle that He has put you here, for such a time as this, to break. Do you feel that your mom values you? Did she feel that her mom valued her? I asked a lot of questions to my parents and my inlaws this Christmas about their relationships with their moms and grand-moms. You see, both my parents and grandparents (and great grandparents, for that matter) were raised in the church. But in some cases, that didn’t guarantee that they as a person, felt valued. The relationship you have with your mother and now with your children, is one that will be passed down from generation to generation.
What are you passing down?
Lord willing, we are passing down Biblical principles and ushering in a sense of value to our children in this generation. “What if I don’t know what it feels like to be valued, or know what that looks like?” you ask? Search out the Bible, reread some of the stories written where women are involved. There are three women (all prostitutes, some believe) that God lifts up in His word and affirms their value. Rahab that protected the spies, the woman who was going to be stoned, and the woman who washed Jesus’ feet with rich perfume. All of them seemed to have little to be desired by the world. But much to be desired by God.
He loves you. He values you. He made you so He could delight in just thinking about you. You are worth far more than rubies. Sparkle and shine like diamonds, knowing your value is priceless in the eyes of the King.